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  • Free Consultation | Dr. Rae Sandler Simon, PsychologistCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Schedule a free 15-minute video consultation with Dr. Rae Sandler Simon, licensed psychologist for couples and individuals in Colorado, Hawaii, and 40+ states. begin here Free Consultation Your first step can be a gentle one. Let’s see if we’re a fit Our first conversation is free, fifteen minutes, and by video. You’ll share what’s on your heart, I’ll describe how I might help, and together we’ll sense whether this feels right. If it doesn’t, I’ll gladly point you toward someone I trust. See full fees and FAQs → I typically respond within one business day, Monday through Thursday. Appointment Request Form Request your free consultation Share a little about what brings you here, and I’ll reach out personally to find a time that works for you. First name* Last name* Email* Phone* Whom may I thank for referring you to my practice?* In which state do you live?* Are you seeking individual therapy, couples therapy, or not sure yet? Briefly describe what you're looking to attend to in our work:* Have you reviewed the fees, and does private-pay work for you? Submit

  • Therapy Scholarship & Sliding Scale | Live & Love Well™Couples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Income-based therapy scholarships and reduced-fee sessions, including the Native Hawaiian Kanaka Scholarship. Quality care should be accessible to all. live & love well Scholarship Programs Because good care should be within reach. My Commitment The Live & Love Well ™ Scholarship Program offers reduced-fee therapy to individuals and couples who need it. How the Scholarship Program Works Scholarships are awarded first come, first served, depending on availability. To apply, new clients complete a brief application, provide income verification, and share their care needs. If no spot is open when you apply, I will connect you with trusted community programs offering reduced-fee psychological services. “Everyone deserves access to compassionate, high-quality care, whatever their financial circumstances.” DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON Scholarships are granted for six months at a time and reviewed twice yearly. If your financial situation changes, please let me know so someone else can use the spot. How Financial Need is Determined Eligibility is based on your annual household income, family size, and where you live. Because the cost of living in Hawai'i and the continental United States differs so much, I keep separate income guidelines for each. Required Documentation To apply for a needs-based scholarship, please send verification of household income. A recent pay stub, a tax return, or a letter from a certified accountant all work. Documentation should include all sources of household income, including salary, financial assistance, child support, dividends, unemployment, and financial gifts. Young adults who receive financial support from a parent or guardian submit that person’s income verification. Scholarship rates are re-evaluated every six months, and I reserve the right to modify, deny, or discontinue a scholarship award at my sole discretion. Scholarship Hours Scholarship appointments are typically scheduled between 11am and 2pm Hawai'i time, which is mid to late afternoon in Colorado. Requests outside those clinical hours are considered on a case-by-case basis. A Few Notes on Fees Individual sessions are 50 minutes unless we agree otherwise. Fees for service over and above standard clinical hours are prorated based on a 60-minute session. Ready to Apply? Tell me during your free consultation, or send me a note, and I will email you the short scholarship request form. Nothing about this needs to be awkward. I would rather you ask than quietly decide therapy is out of reach. Care should never feel out of reach. Ask about a scholarship during your free consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Dr. Rae Sandler Simon | Couples Therapist & Psychologist

    Licensed psychologist offering private-pay couples and individual therapy, with culturally affirming care for Jewish clients. Denver, Hawaii and online. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION welcome home Hello, I’m Dr. Rae Sandler Simon. I help couples find their way back to each other, and individuals find their footing through life’s turning points. COUPLES THERAPIST | CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST | DENVER · HAWAIʻI · ONLINE What brings you here? WHERE TO BEGIN Whatever brings you here, whether it’s a relationship under strain, a life in transition, or an ache you can’t quite name, you’ll find a steady place to land. Healing doesn’t ask you to have the right words. It begins with being truly received. Couples For partners who want to feel close again. We break down unhelpful communication patterns, rebuild trust, and strengthen the love that ignited your journey together. Many couples feel a meaningful shift within six to ten sessions. Individuals A steady, compassionate space for grief, anxiety, identity, and the chapters that ask more of you than you expected. We begin with your strengths and move at the pace of your heart. Jewish Clients & Allies A safe haven for Jewish clients, allies, and anyone who has felt othered. You never have to explain or defend who you are. You are welcome. You are home. Licensed in Colorado & Hawaiʻi · Online across 40+ PSYPACT states · Nearly 20 years in practice SEE THE PSYPACT MAP WELCOME Meet Dr. Sandler Simon A short hello, so you can hear my voice and sense whether this feels like home. READ MORE ABOUT DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON love your life. live well in love. ™ When you’re ready, I’m here. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • About Dr. Rae Sandler Simon | Licensed Psychologist, DenverCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Meet Dr. Rae Sandler Simon, clinical psychologist, couples therapy specialist, and founder of Live & Love Well. Nearly 20 years helping couples heal. welcome home. About Dr. Rae Sandler Simon Licensed Clinical Psychologist Founder of Live & Love Well™ I'm Dr. Rae Sandler Simon, a licensed clinical psychologist and the founder of Live & Love Well™ , a practice devoted to couples work and adult wellness in Colorado, Hawai'i, and across 40+ PSYPACT states. I'm a Denver native with deep roots in Hawai'i, and both places shape how I work: grounded, unhurried, connected. Clients describe my style as honest, warm, and deeply compassionate. How I Got Here I began in business at Emory's Goizueta Business School and as a management consultant, then moved to the nonprofit world, helping refugees and asylees build new lives here. That work taught me that healing is never only individual. I earned my PsyD from the University of Denver, focused on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and couples communication. “My approach is intuitive, relational, and real: a culturally safe space where your whole self is welcome.” DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON What I Know About Pain, Personally I live with chronic pain and autoimmune disease, including two spinal fusions. For a long time I didn't see how much pain had quietly shaped my days, until I slowed down and listened to my body. Through mindfulness, movement, and support, I've learned to live with it rather than survive it. So I don't only understand chronic illness and invisible struggle clinically. I understand them in my body. Why Couples Therapy Is My Passion My commitment to couples therapy is rooted in personal experience. I grew up in a family where love was tested and strengthened through effort and honesty, and I carried that into my own marriage of nearly 20 years. Thriving relationships don't happen by chance. They are built. My husband and I have our good days and our not-so-good days, and we keep choosing each other. That is what I want for the couples I work with. Not perfection, but the willingness and the tools to keep choosing. Learn more about couples therapy at Live & Love Well ™. “Healing is never only individual. It happens in relationship, in community, and in the slow, courageous work of rebuilding.” DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON Outside the Office I stay grounded through Pilates, hiking, skiing, reading, and time outdoors with my husband, our two teenagers, and our fur babies. I am a former mogul skier, which explains a few things about how I approach hard terrain. I am an Executive Board Member and affordable-care clinician at Gesher Community Care . I also volunteer as the on-call psychologist for families at Brent's Place in Denver. If my story speaks to yours, let’s talk. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Safe haven for Jews & allies

    Therapy where you don't have to explain the context. Individual and couples work for Jewish clients and allies, in person and online. a safe haven Culturally Affirming Therapy for Jewish Clients and Allies Denver · Hawai'i · online across 40+ states My practice is a welcoming space for all identities and backgrounds - Jewish clients and allies included - never Jewish clients only. The last three years have felt isolating, terrifying, and stacked with betrayal. Many of us have lost friends or colleagues, felt misunderstood or wrongly accused. Our community means more to us now, perhaps, than it ever has before. I'm a licensed clinical psychologist and a Jewish woman. That means you will be welcomed, seen, and understood. I understand our shared intergenerational trauma, interfaith and intercultural partnerships, questions of observance and identity, the weight of inherited expectation, and the specific grief and vigilance we're all navigating. How I came to this work Shortly after October 7, a woman came to me for a consultation. We talked warmly and agreed on her goals. Then, she grew tearful and asked whether I would still work with her now that she had told me she is Jewish and a Zionist. Her previous therapist had fired her, and so several others had either refused to work with her or took the opportunity to attack her. A space that should always be sanctuary had been upended. I told her: of course you are welcome here. You are home. I watched the weight lift from her shoulders right there in the room. In the months that followed came a wave of similar referrals, people carrying isolation, rejection, and fear. Alongside their own goals, the work became a place to name a collective grief. Healing them helped heal me, and it became clear I needed to be a visible safe haven for Jewish clients and allies. Gesher Community Care That led me to Gesher Community Care , which connects Jewish individuals to therapists who understand Jewish identity across the spectrum while keeping care affordable. I serve on its Executive Board. The need in our community has never been greater. Association of Jewish Psychologists I am also a member of the Association of Jewish Psychologists . “Within our work together, you don’t have to explain your experience nor defend your existence.” DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON Of course you are welcome here. You are home. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Therapy Services | Individual, Couples & Jewish TherapyCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Individual therapy, couples counseling, and culturally affirming care for Jewish clients, with Dr. Rae Sandler Simon in Denver and Hawai’i. paths to healing Therapy Services Thoughtful care for every season of life and love. For nearly twenty years, I’ve walked alongside individuals and couples in Denver, in Hawaiʻi, and online across more than 40 states. No two people heal the same way, so no two treatment plans look alike. I weave together Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, psychodynamic work, and Solution-Focused Couples Therapy to honor your goals, your nature, and the life you’re building. Individual Therapy A return to yourself. Room to breathe, to understand, and to grow, with care shaped around who you are, never a protocol. Individual therapy → Couples Therapy The heart of my practice. Gentle, honest work on how you speak, how you repair, and how you choose each other again. Couples therapy → Culturally Affirming Care For Jewish clients and allies. A space where your story is already understood, and you are welcome exactly as you are. Culturally affirming care → Every path begins with a single conversation. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Telehealth, Online therapy, video telehealth

    Secure video therapy for individuals and couples with a licensed clinical psychologist, available in Colorado, Hawaii, and 40+ PSYPACT states. telehealth Online Therapy Wherever you are, across 40+ states. Secure video sessions with a licensed clinical psychologist Healing doesn’t depend on geography. If you’re looking for the right psychologist rather than the closest one, we can meet by secure video, wherever life finds you. I hold the Authority to Practice Interjurisdictional Telepsychology (APIT) through PSYPACT, which allows me to provide therapy to residents of participating states . I'm also fully licensed in Colorado (#3404) and Hawai'i (#1972). States where I can see you online Alabama Arizona Arkansas Colorado Connecticut Delaware District of Columbia Florida Georgia Idaho Illinois Indiana Kansas Kentucky Maine Maryland Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey North Carolina North Dakota Northern Mariana Islands Ohio Oklahoma Pennsylvania Rhode Island South Carolina South Dakota Tennessee Texas Utah Vermont Virginia Washington West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming Don't see your state? The list grows most years. Reach out and I'll tell you where things stand, or help you find someone excellent where you are. Is online therapy as effective? For most concerns, the research shows outcomes comparable to in-person care. What matters far more than the medium is the fit between you and your therapist. That's what the free consultation is for. Wherever you are, there’s a place for you here. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Approach to Couples & Individual Therapy | Dr. Sandler SimonCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    How Dr. Rae Sandler Simon works: therapy grounded in wholeness, compassion, and clinical depth, for individuals and couples in Denver and Hawai’i. you are whole. My Approach Therapy grounded in wholeness, because you already have what you need. You are not broken. You are not a problem to be solved. You may be exhausted, overwhelmed, grieving, or disconnected, and underneath all of that, you are whole. My work is helping you find your way back to it, and strengthening what is already there. “You deserve a therapist who walks beside you, not ahead of you.” DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON What Healing Looks Like in Therapy Healing begins in the room between us: presence, dignity, and care that does not rush you. You deserve a therapist who walks beside you, not ahead of you. It takes many forms. Learning to speak honestly without fear. Rebuilding trust after rupture. Finding safety in the body after illness or trauma. Reclaiming identity. Choosing presence over perfection. When one person heals, the growth reaches every relationship in their life. How This Value Shapes My Practice I practice out-of-network to protect your privacy and dignity, and I choose patience over performance, because healing is not linear. The Live & Love Well ™ Scholarship Program is offered as respect, not charity. I honor cultural and relational safety, because your identity belongs in the room, and I focus on understanding and growth rather than blame or shame. “When one person heals, the growth reaches every relationship in their life.” DR. RAE SANDLER SIMON Where This Value Comes From In Jewish tradition, tikkun olam (‎תיקון עולם‎) is usually translated as repairing the world. I understand it as a call to strengthen what exists, to tend to one another, and to leave things more whole than we found them. As a Jewish woman and clinician, this is ancestral and personal. It is the foundation of Live & Love Well ™. A Safe Haven for All, Especially Jewish Clients and Allies Many Jewish individuals and families are looking for a therapist who understands their experience without being asked to explain, justify, or minimize it. Rising antisemitism, the complexity of Jewish identity, and the particular grief and resilience of this moment are realities I hold with care. Live & Love Well ™ is open to everyone. If you have ever felt othered, for any reason, you belong here. The only requirement is that you are human, and willing to show up. An Invitation Healing does not ask you to be fearless or fully formed. It asks you to show up, stay curious, and stay open. That willingness is itself an act of healing. Your willingness is enough to start. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Therapy Fees & FAQs | Private-Pay Psychologist, DenverCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    $225 individual, $325 couples. Out-of-network superbills provided. Income-based and Native Hawaiian scholarship programs available. fees & faqs Your Questions Answered Honest answers about fees, insurance, and getting started. Top of Questions Click any question to jump to its answer. 01 What are your fees? 02 Do you accept insurance? 03 Do you offer sliding scale or discounted rates? 04 Where do you offer therapy? 05 How is therapy different from talking to a friend? 06 Is AI a substitute for therapy with a trained clinician? 07 How do I know if we’re ready for couples therapy? 08 Do you meet with couples clients individually? 09 How is a psychologist different from other therapists? 10 What is the first therapy session like? 11 What’s your cancellation policy? 12 Can I use a credit card or HSA to pay for therapy? 13 Do you prescribe medication? Fees 01 What are your fees? Individual therapy is $225 per 50-minute session, couples therapy is $325 per 75-minute session, phone consultations and clinical or professional consultations are $225 per 50-minute session, and emergency or after-hours consultations (weekdays after 5:30pm HST, weekends, and holidays) are $450 per 45-minute session. My regular hours are Monday to Thursday, 8:00am to 5:30pm HST. **If a report, letter, or consultation with an outside party is requested, you will be billed for any time needed to prepare documentation or conduct in-person/phone consultations. Dr. Simon’s standard service fee applies for all actions outside of legal proceedings and court involvement. View Dr. Simon's Notice of Good Faith Estimate View Dr. Simon's Notice of Privacy Practices Back to questions ↑ Insurance 02 Do you accept insurance? I don’t bill insurance directly. I’m considered both a private-pay and out-of-network provider, and that’s an intentional choice. This model allows us to protect your privacy, avoid unnecessary diagnoses, and tailor your treatment to your actual needs rather than what an insurance company approves. That said, I’m committed to making care accessible. Many PPO plans offer out-of-network benefits that may reimburse you for a significant portion of your session cost. I provide a superbill, a detailed receipt with all necessary service and diagnostic codes, that you can submit to your insurance for possible reimbursement. I’m happy to walk you through how this works. Learn more about out-of-network reimbursement and my accessible care philosophy. Back to questions ↑ 03 Do you offer sliding scale or discounted rates? Yes. I believe everyone deserves access to high-quality, compassionate mental health care, and my scholarship programs r eflect that commitment. I offer the Live & Love Well ™ Scholarship Program , which provides income-based reduced fees for individuals and couples, and the Native Hawaiian Kanaka Scholarship Progra m , created to honor Kanaka Maoli communities. If you identify as Native Hawaiian, please contact me directly, price will not be a barrier to service. Eligibility is based on household income and my availability, and scholarships are awarded on a first-come, first-served basis. Learn more about the scholarship program. Back to questions ↑ Sliding Scale Where I Offer Therapy 04 Where do you offer therapy? I’m licensed in Colorado (License #3404) and Hawai’i (License #1972), and I see clients in person in both states. I also offer secure telehealth sessions, video or phone, and hold the Authority to Practice Interjurisdictional Telepsychology (APIT) through PSYPACT, which allows me to work with clients in more than 40 states and territories. View the PSYPACT map. Back to questions ↑ Therapy vs a Friend 05 How is therapy different from talking to a friend or family member? Friends and family are vital, and they’re not a replacement for therapy, they’re a different thing entirely. The people who love you bring their own feelings, histories, and stakes to every conversation. In therapy, you get something rare: an objective, nonjudgmental space with someone who is trained to listen deeply, offer new perspectives, and teach you evidence-based tools for lasting change. Reaching out is one of the most courageous things you can do. Back to questions ↑ 06 Is AI a substitute for therapy with a trained clinician? In short: no. AI tools are not therapy, and not a substitute for a licensed clinician who can assess your circumstances, protect your confidentiality, and give you personalized care. There are real risks. AI platforms can give inaccurate or incomplete guidance, what you share may not be protected by HIPAA or state confidentiality law, and AI advice can conflict with your treatment in ways that create confusion. If you are ever in crisis, having suicidal thoughts, or feeling unsafe, please do not rely on an AI tool. Contact 988, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency department. Back to questions ↑ 07 How do I know if we’re ready for couples therapy? Couples therapy works best when both partners are emotionally present, open to accountability, and able to stay relatively grounded during conflict. If one or both of you is feeling overwhelmed, highly reactive, or unsure, the process can feel more chaotic than healing. If one or both of you isn’t quite ready, working with an individual therapist, either before or alongside couples therapy, can lay the groundwork for deeper, more effective relationship work. Whether that’s with me or another trusted clinician, this step often creates the clarity and emotional stability needed to move forward together. Learn more about couples therapy at Live & Love Well ™ . Back to questions ↑ 08 Do you meet with couples clients individually? Yes, when it's clinically appropriate. Individual sessions within the context of couples therapy can be a valuable part of the process. They offer space to explore a personal pattern more deeply, to clarify what you're feeling before bringing it to your partner, or to work through something you're not yet ready to discuss together. Individual sessions aren't right for every situation, and we'll discuss openly whether they'd benefit your process. Read more HERE about my clinical approach to individual wellness. Back to questions ↑ 09 How is a psychologist different from other therapists? A licensed psychologist (Ph.D. or Psy.D.) holds a doctoral degree in psychology and completes at least one year of post-doctoral supervised experience. LCSWs, LMFTs, and LPCs hold master’s degrees and complete two years of post-graduate supervision. Psychiatrists are medical doctors (M.D. or D.O.) who can prescribe medication. Each of these professionals plays a valuable role. As a licensed psychologist, I bring advanced training in assessment, diagnosis, and integrative therapy methods that support your whole-person wellness. Back to questions ↑ Therapy and AI Couples Seen Individually Psychologist vs Other Therapists Ready for Couples Therapy First Therapy Session 10 What is the first therapy session like? We’ll review your paperwork, discuss your history and current concerns, set realistic short- and long-term goals, and begin to get a sense of whether we’re a good fit for each other. The first three sessions are a trial phase, designed to determine whether our work together will be short- or long-term. If either of us feels that another provider might better meet your needs, I’ll offer a thoughtful referral. The goal is always the right match, not just any match. Back to questions ↑ 11 What’s your cancellation policy? I ask for at least 72 hours’ notice if you need to cancel or reschedule. Without that notice, or in the case of a missed session, the full session fee applies. But, I do understand that life happens. If your cancellation is due to a genuine emergency, we’ll talk through it together and figure out next steps. Back to questions ↑ Cancellation Policy Credit Card Payment 12 Can I use a credit card or HSA to pay for therapy? Yes. I accept Visa, MasterCard, and Discover credit cards, as well as cash, personal checks, and Flexible Spending (FSA) or Health Savings Accounts (HSA). All payments are processed through a HIPAA-compliant portal called Therapy Partner . Payment is due at the time of service. Back to questions ↑ 13 Do you prescribe medication? No. As a licensed clinical psychologist, I provide talk therapy but do not prescribe medications. That said, I frequently collaborate with psychiatrists and medical providers when medication may be helpful. Research consistently shows that the most effective outcomes often come from a thoughtful combination of therapy and medication, when appropriate. Back to questions ↑ Medication Questions about fees or fit? Let’s talk. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Individual Therapy in Denver & Hawaii | Anxiety & DepressionCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Warm, direct, evidence-based individual therapy with a licensed psychologist. CBT, ACT, psychodynamic, and mindfulness-based work. come home to yourself Individual Wellness Steady, unhurried care for the whole of you. Some seasons ask more of us than we expected. You don’t have to carry this one alone. You are not broken, and you are not a problem to be solved. With compassion and a strengths-based approach, we’ll find our way back to what is already yours. Where I can help Divorce & Life Transitions Honoring what was, and finding your footing in what comes next. Mind, Body & Spirit Care for the whole of you: unique, complete, and worthy of tenderness. Anxiety, Depression & Postpartum Find steadiness and calm when your inner world feels heavy or loud. Parenting & Caregiving Support and validation through every beautiful, exhausting phase. Chronic Pain & Illness Live fully alongside invisible pain, with acceptance, peace, and respect for your body. Executive Strategy & Mental Acuity Pair emotional depth with strategic thinking, for growth without burnout. Trauma, Grief & Loss Gentle, unhurried healing, at the pace your heart and body choose. Teens & Young Adults Room to grow into yourself, with someone steady in your corner. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Begin with a free fifteen-minute video consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in Denver & HawaiiCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Couples therapy with a licensed psychologist, drawing on the Gottman Method and Relational Life Therapy. Denver, Hawaii and online. Free consultation. choose each other Couples Therapy Finding your way back to each other. Love is worth tending. When a relationship is hurting, it matters who you turn to. Couples work is the heart of my practice, and I bring to it both clinical depth and a deep belief in what two people can rebuild together. Whether you’re newly together, preparing to marry, or decades in, we’ll tend to how you communicate, how you repair, and the friendship and desire beneath it all. Many couples feel a meaningful shift within six to ten sessions. Therapeutic Approach for Relationship Work I bring advanced training in Relational Life Therapy and Solution-Focused Couples Therapy, woven together to honor your goals, your personalities, and the life you’re building together. The Developmental Model · The Couples Institute Understanding the stage your relationship is actually in, so we work on what is in front of you rather than what should be. Relational Life Therapy · Terrence Real Honest, direct work on the patterns underneath, including the ones nobody names out loud. The Gottman Method Research-based tools for conflict, repair, and the friendship that holds a marriage together. Divorce Busting · Dr. Michele Weiner-Davis Strategic divorce prevention and healing from infidelity. Esther Perel's workshops Desire, betrayal, and the erotic life of a long relationship. Couples' Consultation with Dr. Susan Heitler Years in a group mentored by the author of The Power of Two - Secrets to a Strong and Loving Marriage. More about my approach → What we build together Are We Ready? An honest look at where you are, and the wisest way forward. Improve Communication Learn to speak and listen in ways that bring you closer. Healing After an Affair Rebuild trust, tend what came apart, and protect the future you choose. The Parenting Journey Navigate every chapter of parenting as true partners, side by side. Read more: Are we ready for couples therapy? Every couple’s story has a next chapter. Begin together with a free fifteen-minute consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

  • Is Couples Therapy Right for Us? | Live & Love WellCouples therapy, Counseling, Anxiety, Depression,

    Wondering whether couples therapy is for you? Signs it may help, what to expect, and how to start with Dr. Rae Sandler Simon. an honest look Are We Ready? A gentle guide for couples considering therapy. before you begin What readiness looks like Couples therapy works best when both partners can show up with a basic foundation of safety, honesty, and individual stability. Not perfection, just a starting point that makes the work possible. Some things are better worked through individually first. If you answer yes to any of the questions below, individual support may be the better place to begin. 1. Is there any physical or emotional abuse in the relationship? 2. Is there concern about how substances are being used or relied upon? 3. Is there ongoing deception, such as an active affair, secret finances, or other hidden behavior, that one or both of you are unwilling to bring into the open? 4. Is there a mental health concern, such as depression, anxiety, or trauma, that is not currently being addressed? 5. If you are joining by telehealth, can you both be in the same room, rather than calling in from two separate places? Couples work asks both partners to be physically together, in my office or on a shared screen. Conjoint therapy, where both of you are in the same session, is the most widely recommended format: it works on the relationship directly, allows real-time dialogue, and lets me see how each of you actually shows up with the other. If any of these resonate, hope is not lost. It means the groundwork comes first. Individual therapy can build the safety, honesty, and stability that make couples work possible. If none apply, couples therapy can be a genuinely transformative space, whether you are rebuilding trust, reconnecting, or simply learning to understand each other more clearly. You don't need to be equally ready to begin. The more each of you can take some responsibility for your own part, the faster you will build the ability to communicate and repair. You may also find How to Get the Most From Couples Therapy by The Couples Institute helpful. Wherever you find yourselves, whether you are ready to begin, working on communication, healing after a betrayal, or starting a family, there is a place to start. Every couple’s story has a next chapter. Begin together with a free fifteen-minute consultation. BOOK YOUR FREE CONSULTATION

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